I’ve had a bit of a hiatus recently due to a combination of things, one of which has been moving house. We only moved from one side of the city to the other, so not a huge upheaval, but as our last move three years ago was only around the corner (quite literally) and it caused arguments, tears and threats of deportation, I approached this move with some trepidation.
But, in fact it was pretty easy. Of course there were late nights, pulled muscles and we were still packing the kitchen when the movers not only arrived, but had packed the van and gone, but there were no threats of abandonment or cars crashed into moving trucks (yes, I may have reversed Mr Miner’s car into a moving truck on a previous occasion!).
In fact, when our friends brought emergency coffee supplies the morning after the move, we were all cheery, smug and smiley, so pleased with ourselves and our effortless moving style. Obviously we hadn’t unpacked any boxes or braved Ikea at this stage, but still, I was very proud of what we had achieved. And, yes I do count not killing each other on moving day a serious achievement.
The other thing that happened during my Miner’s Girl hiatus is the five year anniversary of us meeting. Now, let’s be honest, I obviously mean five years since a drunken hook-up that neither of us thought was going anywhere (sorry Mum), but there’s no simple word for that. Anyway, the coinciding of the big moving day achievement and our ‘anniversary’ got me thinking about the things I have learnt over the last five years that have helped us go the distance (FIFO pun intended).
1. Communication is key…
Hints don’t work, be upfront and get on the same page.
2. …But do it your way
Contrary to popular belief t’s actually ok not to be on the phone everyday.
3. Get a life!
Waiting around for your other half to come home is no way to spend your time. I have joined gyms and bookclubs, I’ve volunteered and I’ve forced myself on new friends, but at least I’m not bored!
4. Give him a break
Don’t feel rejected! do you really want to do the kind of things he gets up to with his idiot mates?
5. Sundays are lonely
Remember though, every cloud has a silver lining; when he’s home Sunday’s will be appreciated all the more. And when he’s not? You won’t hate Mondays quite as much as everyone else does!
6. Get some help
Pay for movers, pay for cleaners. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
7. Know your love language
We all demonstrate love differently. How do you show yours? I love cuddles and Mr Miner apparently shows his love by leaving socks all over the house…
8. Some people won’t get it
Sometimes T. Swizzle just says it best! As long as you are making each other happy, it doesn’t matter how they feel about it.
9. A little help goes a long way
In this lifestyle the small things make a difference, so help each other out when you can.
10. A ‘routine’ sex life isn’t a bad thing.
Just like Ryan Gosling topless, Fly-in night sex. Never. Gets. Boring!